Children Are Not Cake – To Be Cut Up To Suit

Our children are not our belongings – they belong to themselves. If parents separate, children must not normally be cut off from a parent, who is after all half of their creation. Nor should their time be cut up in some cruel way without their feelings being taken into account to serve the sense of justice of others. Parents should ask themselves the only question that really matters “Do we love our children more than we hate each other? More even than getting what we want?”

Our children are not our belongings – they belong to themselves. If parents separate, children must not normally be cut off from a parent, who is after all half of their creation. Nor should their time be cut up in some cruel way without their feelings being taken into account to serve the sense of justice of others. Parents should ask themselves the only question that really matters “Do we love our children more than we hate each other? More even than getting what we want?” Focus Mediation Blog

If the answer to that question is “Yes!” make that mean something by helping your children maintain loving relationships with you both, so they can enjoy the richness of two parents and extended families. Listen to what they want to happen with their lives and time and don’t cut them off from half their heritage or cut up their time and lives without taking account of their needs and feelings. Child Inclusive Mediation can help if you and they agree. Meanwhile ponder this beautiful poem by Khalil Gibran ‘On Children.

Author: Mary Banham-Hall, Family Mediator, Milton Keynes & Bedford

Call us on 01908 231132 or Email: info@focus-mediation.co.uk for further information or to book a Mediation Information & Assessment Meeting (MIAM) (11 Locations; Milton Keynes, Bedford, Broxbourne, Hemel Hempstead, London, Northampton, Oxford, Potters Bar, St Albans, Harrow and Watford).

Read more about family mediation at:  www.focus-mediation.co.uk 

 

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